As you like it

"I'm also just a girl, standing in front of a boy, asking him to love her". . .Anna Scott said this to William Thacker in Notting Hill. . .perhaps one of the most perfect cinematic moments that defines true romance to me, maybe i am biased towards Julia Roberts. I truly believe that this moment was just 'perfect', something i will always envy.

No matter who we are, or what we achieve, we all need someone. We're all ambitious, some who aspire for 20,000 while others who aspire for 20 million and some for 20 billion. Some of us choose to drive thru this journey with a companion, some feel ambition takes you only so far and then you need boosters (some one real who makes you feel life's so much worth everything we ever had to go thru). Some choose to stay off relationships, some stay in relationships for years and never get 'really' involved. Priveleged few, who choose to find multiple partners and lot of love :)

We all do find some one.

The last time i confessed my love to some one, i did something i'd never imagined i'd do. I told her that she was the most genuine person i'd ever met (she is by far the most genuine person i know) and believed that she was truly someone i felt could respond to every emotion of mine with as much love and passion if not more. It was beautiful and the sense of fulfilment was immense.

At 30, i have around 10 close friends. Most who're married, couple who're single. Of the ones married, half of them are already separated, while the other half have had the most amazing relationships. This, irespective of their demanding careers and other pressures of life. It made me feel that if i ever had to marry someone, i had to be head-over-heels in love with her, believe that she'd do all it takes to make it work. With the pressures that exist in a busy metro like Mumbai, managing a relationship or bringing up a kid is most definately a full time job, and something that you cant afford to faulter upon. It takes 2 sensible people to give it their 100% and work to achieve the 'perfect relationship'. The ones who fell short of that 200% classified in the former lot, while others worked to achieve something priceless. I am of course, working to be a part of the latter.

Just the other day doing at a long lunch, i was with 2 senior women in their late forties. One who's never been married, she was too masculine for a man i guess. The other who was divorced, both had served top management positions with some of the best media companies in India. We were talking about relationships. They admitted it was rather easy for them to be in relationships in the 1970's and that the ballgame had completely changed now. High pressures making tolerance levels low, less time spent leading to compatibility issues, infidelity. I couldnt agree more.

In 2009, we have an i-pod with 180 gd memory, a ps3 with blue ray-now at us$ 299 only, a one-lac car. . .but where are the simple joys of life. Why is it so complicated to find the simplest things, where are they lost. Blessed are the few, who discover true love and companionship.

Why is simple so complicated now.

I feel, we all eventually find what we work at. Success, peace, happiness, good health, financial security. Of course, love will always be something that'll require 200% effort, one alone can achieve just the half. Perhaps achieving perfect in both halves is more fulfiling than owning a lamborghini gallardo. Maybe because you can buy the latter, but never the former.

They say, where there's a will there's a way.

Find it and find yourself life, as you like it.